Modern Musings: Conversations with the Maiden, Mother, And Crone

This week, we continue our conversation on habit formation by exploring Atomic Habits by James Clear. Building on Amber's introduction to Tiny Habits last week, we discuss the key principles behind creating lasting behavior change through small, consistent improvements. Join us as we compare the two approaches and share practical takeaways for building better habits one step at a time.

This week, Amber kicks off a new book series with the first two chapters of BJ Fogg’s Tiny Habits. Together, we unpack Fogg’s behavior model — B = M + A + P (Behavior = Motivation + Ability + Prompt) — and explore why lasting change has less to do with willpower and more to do with designing habits that are actually doable.

We talk about the common trap of aiming too big too fast, why “failure” often means the system was unrealistic from the start, and how shrinking goals into small, specific actions can create real momentum over time. From brushing one tooth to building life-changing routines, this conversation dives into the psychology behind behavior change and how tiny shifts can lead to surprisingly powerful results.

If you’ve ever struggled to stay consistent with new habits, routines, or goals, this episode offers a refreshing and compassionate perspective on starting small, celebrating progress, and setting yourself up for long-term success.

In Part 3 of our discussion of Anatomy of an Epidemic by Robert Whitaker, we examine how pharmaceutical marketing campaigns helped shape public perceptions of mental illness and psychiatric treatment. We also take a closer look at the long-term physical harm and disability associated with neuroleptic drugs — one of the central reasons Whitaker argues that modern psychiatric care has contributed to an “epidemic” of chronic mental illness.

In this episode, we unpack the difference between self-care and self-soothing—what they really mean, how they show up in everyday life, and why the two often get confused. We also share healthier alternatives and practical ways to care for yourself beyond quick fixes.

In this thought-provoking episode, we explore the many forms addiction can take beyond substance abuse. From social media and technology addiction to gambling, food, work, and even relationships, we break down how addictive behaviors develop and why they’re often overlooked. Learn about the psychology of addiction, warning signs of behavioral addictions, and practical ways to recognize unhealthy patterns in your own life. If you’ve ever wondered how habits turn into dependencies, this episode offers insight, awareness, and actionable steps toward healthier choices.

In this episode, we dive into the quiet but pervasive reality of ageism—and why so many women begin to feel overlooked after 50. We explore how cultural narratives shape visibility, value, and voice, and challenge the idea that relevance has an expiration date. Through candid conversation, we share practical ways to stay engaged, confident, and fully seen—on your own terms—while redefining what it means to age with presence and power.

Teacher Appreciation Week is a time to recognize the dedication, patience, and impact educators have on students’ lives every day. In this short episode, we highlight simple ways to show gratitude—from heartfelt notes to small acts of kindness—and share why celebrating teachers matters now more than ever.

In this episode, we unpack why saying “no” can feel so uncomfortable—and why guilt often shows up even when we’re honoring our own needs. We explore the deeper reasons we say “yes” when we really don’t want to, from people-pleasing to fear of disappointing others. Tune in for honest insights and practical perspective shifts to help you set boundaries with more confidence and less guilt.

In this episode, we explore why asking for help can feel so uncomfortable, from fear of judgment to the pressure of appearing self-sufficient. We unpack why reaching out is actually a sign of strength—and a key to growth, connection, and resilience. We also talk about what to do when you do ask for help and don’t get it, including how to reframe the experience, seek support in new places, and keep advocating for yourself. If you’ve ever struggled to raise your hand, this conversation will help you feel less alone—and more empowered to try again.

In this episode, we explore why it’s so important for adults to reconnect with the sense of play they often leave behind. We talk about rediscovering old hobbies and joyful pastimes to boost creativity, reduce stress, and bring more meaning into everyday life. By reflecting on what once made us feel alive, we uncover simple ways to reintroduce fun and curiosity into adulthood. Tune in for an encouraging reminder that play isn’t childish—it’s essential.